Unitarian Universalist Homemaker?

I was recently reading a blog post entitled "Cursing Mr. and Mrs., or Feminism as Personal Attack" over at Inspired by a True Story . This lovely article is about whether or not it is ok for a man to refer to his wife as "The Mrs.". I believe that if it does not offend "The Mrs." then by all means, go ahead! What caught my eye was that in the comments section, a young lady had made the comment that she found comfort in her husbands protection. I must say that I feel the very same way. It is a comfort to know that I am a treasure to my husband. I have confidence that he will act in my best interest. He has confidence that I will leave the "heavy lifting" to him.
I believe that my husband is the head of the house. I believe that I am best suited in our relationship and as a personal preference to homekeeping and the rearing of children. I am also a Unitarian Universalist. I am using the benefits of a womans right to choose. I choose to stay home. I choose to raise my children myself instead of letting someone else do it for me. I choose to defer to my husband.
I visit the Ladies Against Feminism site quite often and enjoy reading the success stories of other ladies who choose this lifestyle. Where can I find SAHMs with a world view similar to my own? Surely I am not the only liberal woman who is a homemaker and thoroughly old fashioned when it comes to her personal view on gender roles. I can honestly say that I have rarely seen a group of ladies with such good intentions as those who contribute to LAF. I do not agree with a great many of their views but know where they are coming from when they say that feminism is contributing to the collapse of family values and decency. There's alot to be said for modesty and behaving like a lady but I don't think women should be expected to go around like a stepford wife. June Cleaver, I'm not.
Here's to personal preference. Here's to doing what's right for you as long as you aren't hurting others (:wink:)
Here's to being an old fashioned 20-something housewife and mother!!

Mississippi Gardener

Hey y'all. It's SPRANG TIME on the gulf coast. They start early down here and who can blame 'em? My beautiful dinnerplate sized hibiscus flowers that I photographed last summer up and died. One of my pink azaleas kicked it too. All of my mexican heather died. Oh, this winter was a hard one for my poor plant friends. The real stunner was that all 3 of my rosemary plants not only survived but they are thriving. They're twice the size or more than when I planted them! The one at the end of the drive is covered with tiny purple flowers...just amazing.
I usually have a green thumb but the crazy weather and different climate really threw me for a loop. I've already tried planting some pansies but only a few ever bloomed. The rest had tiny buds that opened up into teeny flowers with only 2 petals. I think I bought some kind of mutant duds. I finally went to walmart and got some good ol' wave petunias. They like full sun and bloom all spring and summer. What more could I want? Visit www.wave-rave.com
The summer sun is fierce here. It's humid and the wind blows in from the gulf. It's like walking out into a big hairdryer in a steamy bathroom after you shower. I am surprised any flowers at all will tolerate that kind of abuse. Nature knows what she's doing even if people don't so I plant and enjoy. I used a little greenhouse to grow some plants from seed, thyme, lavender (no one I know can get it to grow from seed but I try anyway. hope springs eternal), dill, zinnias and nasturtiums which are my ultimate favorite. All the seeds did well aside from the lavender, surprise, surprise. I made a row out back in front of the fence and planted sunflower seed along with the seed I had left from the greenhouse project. The row is sprouting really well and everything has secondary leaves. That's a good sign.
After Katrina, the birds are returning to Gulfport. I have a great deal of visitors to my feeder especially sparrows and doves. Thanks to the deep and wide drainage ditch next to the house, we have a few Great Egrets, Blue Herons and I even saw my first Cattle Egret a few days ago. They all just love to eat those big crawdads! I think they call them crawfish or something down here. They're those little things that look like tiny lobsters. I love to see all the wildlife just doing what they do in my own back yard. I love spring!
Why don't you write and tell me how you prepare for spring? I'd love to hear from you :) See you again soon!

Navy Wife...Toughest Job in the Navy...NOT!

I'm NOT one of those Military Wives who seem to sincerely believe "Military Wife...the toughest Job in the Navy". There's an abundance of Icons, T-shirts and yes, I've seen some poor fools have actually had this trite and illogical statement tattooed onto their bodies (lest they forget how important they are, I guess).

I personally do not need to believe that I am essential to the operation of our nations defense. I do not need to believe that my "job" is tougher than my husands to feel Important. Being a good wife to my husband and a good mother to our children is more than enough for me.

First of all, I do not have to worry about anyone shooting me while I go to the cleaners. I do not have to worry about being blown to bits just to do the marketing. I do not have to carry water and a weapon on me at all times. If I get hot while watching the kids or doing my job, I can wear shorts and a T-shirt. I'm spared days on end boiling hot and sweating in the bowels of a ship the size of a dumpster in the Persian Gulf. I've never been locked into the small space of said ship because there was an electrical fire. They lock the ENs in so they can work on the problem but if there's an explosion the whole ship does't go down. That is flippin' scary! These things (and worse!) happen, but not to me. I am a Navy Wife. My realm of experience is really nothing compared to the situations faced by our Military Men and Women.

Being a Navy Wife is no picnic. I have an experience that is much different than that of a civilian. I have to show my ID to get to my house. The government cares about my lawns maintenance. My husband is gone for 6 months out of a year. Getting a speeding ticket on base would get Dan in trouble. I live far away from my family. I get lonely. Because some military wives are unfaithful and bitchy, we all get that reputation. Blah blah blah...it's really not so bad. It takes a special kind of crazy to do what I do!

I'm a Navy Wife by choice. I chose this life when I chose my husband. Dan loves his job and I'm proud of what he does. Sure, I do it all and I'm lonely while he's gone but whining about the trivialities of military life doesn't help. I'm proud to be who and what I am. I serve our country by standing beside a United States Navy Seabee as his wife. I give him credit where it's due. That's why I say...

"Navy Wife...Toughest Job in the Navy...NOT!"

Here We Go!

Hi there! I'm Tessa. My husband is a Seabee. "Can do!"?!?!?! Well, as a Navy Wife and Mom, I can, I have and will continue to do so faithfully. Yes, ma'am. In my blog, you can count on info regarding homemaking, child raisin' and general stuff that goes on in normal military family life. I'll answer questions and try to make it fun.